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First of all, there is a difference between the individual tests and the tests of the couple relationship. These come from the couple relationship itself, which is a structure built between the two. So, the tests for one of the lovers are different from the tests for the other lover, and also the tests for the two lovers together are completely different from the tests the lovers have to pass individually.
What is a test? A test is a phase of crystallization of certain lessons we have previously received. A test always appears at the level of the prior lessons. We can never say that we receive a spiritual test that does not fit us and the lesson we have just learned. This does not happen in school either, so at the level of the universe it certainly does not happen. The spiritual test always comes according to the lessons we have had. It is the same in the couple relationship. The tests in the couple relationship come according to the lessons we could have learned or that we have learned before. A test is not the same as a lesson. In a lesson, we learn, we train, we make mistakes, we do it again, the situations repeat themselves until we learn. When there is a test, you cannot check the material anymore, you have to say what you know. When we are tested, we are put into a situation in which the source, the lesson itself, does not appear anymore, all that appears is a new situation in which we see what we have learned. For example, if we become aware of a mistake – our attachment to certain objects and situations in our lives, and we mistake them for the couple relationship, we do not realize this immediately. We carry on, we love each other, we have a relationship, but there will be certain lessons which we will tend to be taught.
For example, God comes and takes away one of the objects we have attached to our love. In that situation, we have the possibility of seeing how in a strange way we tend to see that the relationship itself suffers, even if only that element disappeared, which anyway was not connected to the relationship. It was just an effect of the relationship. Like in the example with the park, in an objective life situation, God just makes us move somewhere else, where there is no park and all of a sudden we feel we do not love each other anymore. Somebody who is lucid will immediately say: “Let’s not make this mistake, let’s not identify love with all its products, with all its effects.” Then, the two have learned the lesson. When another more serious life situation appears the two will remember this lesson and will successfully pass a very big spiritual test. Or not necessarily the walk in the park, but the other one’s physical presence: for example, for a shorter or longer period, one of the two lovers is removed from the other one, objectively, inevitably. This can be a test of the couple relationship. But if they did not learn this lesson, they will say that the other one’s physical presence was actually the cause of their love. In this way, they fail, and when such a situation appears they regress. That is why these tests of the couple relationship have the particularity of testing that which is not necessarily connected to ourselves, but what is connected to the relationship itself.
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